Comments on: Mommy Freaking Madness http://www.lisapaitzspindler.com/blog/2005/02/23/really-long-post/ Fri, 08 Aug 2008 19:50:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Corbie http://www.lisapaitzspindler.com/blog/2005/02/23/really-long-post/#comment-5 Corbie Fri, 19 Jan 2007 17:28:00 +0000 http://www.lisapaitzspindler.com/blog/2005/02/23/really-long-post/#comment-5 So, yeah... I just see so many people stressing out about being the 'perfect mom' and wonder where the he** that came from. And I DO wonder about the motivations of those child psychologists who push mothers back into the paranoid mode of mothering... One commentator said that liberal psychologists are worse, in some ways, than conservatives, because they're the ones that advocate overnurturing, while the conservatives believe in letting the child learn a bit from the school of hard knocks. I dunno if that's true or not, but I do think the whole UberMommy thing threatens to reduce women back to the role of womb and feeding apparatus, which seems pretty retro to me. Nice to know, though, that educators 100 years ago were warning mothers not to give their kids teddy bears... I think it's pretty sad that kids today are so overscheduled . overprotected that they don't have the time (or the freedom, thanks to paranoid fears about child abduction) to go play in the woods or streams or wild places I played in as a child. Those spots, I'm sure, would be regarded as too 'dangerous' for a 10-year-old to be by herself, now. And I know I ranted to you about visiting my friend P., and finding that, after 15 years of not being in contact, she is so consumed by her role as Mommy that she can't even find time to KNIT! Gawd's Teeth, woman, our GRANDMOTHERS found time to knit, and they had more kids than today's average! You take your knitting to the doctor's office, or hockey practice, or whatever, so you have something to DO to keep you from strangling everyone! It's disgusting that she's so brainwashed by society / her church / etc. that she hadn't even had ONE long soak in the soaking tub in her new house, after living there for two or three months already... But the kids bathe in it regularly. Ok, I'm ranting about that again, and on your blog, sorry. But it steams me that she doesn't know how to take time out for herself... I'm SO glad you're not doing that! Because if you didn't, I'd have to hurt you... {g} So, yeah… I just see so many people stressing out about being the ‘perfect mom’ and wonder where the he** that came from. And I DO wonder about the motivations of those child psychologists who push mothers back into the paranoid mode of mothering…

One commentator said that liberal psychologists are worse, in some ways, than conservatives, because they’re the ones that advocate overnurturing, while the conservatives believe in letting the child learn a bit from the school of hard knocks. I dunno if that’s true or not, but I do think the whole UberMommy thing threatens to reduce women back to the role of womb and feeding apparatus, which seems pretty retro to me.

Nice to know, though, that educators 100 years ago were warning mothers not to give their kids teddy bears…

I think it’s pretty sad that kids today are so overscheduled . overprotected that they don’t have the time (or the freedom, thanks to paranoid fears about child abduction) to go play in the woods or streams or wild places I played in as a child. Those spots, I’m sure, would be regarded as too ‘dangerous’ for a 10-year-old to be by herself, now.

And I know I ranted to you about visiting my friend P., and finding that, after 15 years of not being in contact, she is so consumed by her role as Mommy that she can’t even find time to KNIT! Gawd’s Teeth, woman, our GRANDMOTHERS found time to knit, and they had more kids than today’s average! You take your knitting to the doctor’s office, or hockey practice, or whatever, so you have something to DO to keep you from strangling everyone!

It’s disgusting that she’s so brainwashed by society / her church / etc. that she hadn’t even had ONE long soak in the soaking tub in her new house, after living there for two or three months already… But the kids bathe in it regularly.

Ok, I’m ranting about that again, and on your blog, sorry. But it steams me that she doesn’t know how to take time out for herself…

I’m SO glad you’re not doing that! Because if you didn’t, I’d have to hurt you… {g}

]]> By: lisa http://www.lisapaitzspindler.com/blog/2005/02/23/really-long-post/#comment-6 lisa Fri, 19 Jan 2007 17:29:55 +0000 http://www.lisapaitzspindler.com/blog/2005/02/23/really-long-post/#comment-6 Mara, you are my link back to sanity. You remind me what it was like pre-baby, and you also remind me often of what was important to me then -- the decisions I made then that sometimes I waiver on now. For instance, when I waiver on using daycare, you remind me of how even Hunter/Gatherers had grandmothers and other women who helped with childcare. Just try to imagine a H/G woman taking an 18 month old out foraging for nuts and berries, let alone hunting small animals. Mara, you are my link back to sanity. You remind me what it was like pre-baby, and you also remind me often of what was important to me then — the decisions I made then that sometimes I waiver on now.

For instance, when I waiver on using daycare, you remind me of how even Hunter/Gatherers had grandmothers and other women who helped with childcare. Just try to imagine a H/G woman taking an 18 month old out foraging for nuts and berries, let alone hunting small animals.

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